FOOD FOR THOUGHT

As a man the love of women is as far as it deviates from such a different caliber, that I would like to ignore it here, you still have several choices in the Western world, to focus the love you have on different goals. Experience shows that loving multiple objects or subjects soon leads to unbridgeable tensions. On the one hand because passions often require an enormous amount of time, energy and concentration. On the other hand, because the object or object of love usually does not settle for a shared, let alone second place.

Then what are these choices? For the sake of completeness, let's start with the most superfictional like money, career and possessions to own it. However, a man can also be caught by an interest that sometimes results in passion for art, science, music or sport. This often leads to a somewhat monomanic attitude. However, a man can also be completely seized by the love of a woman or to God. This also shows that there are several possibilities. I would not like to speak directly of choices here, although ultimately it will be when the present love settles in the heart or brain of the man in question.

A man's love for a woman or man may be sexually motivated, or possess any other external reason. He may even decide to commit to that one woman in marriage forever or as long as possible. This love is one we could call worldly. On the internet I saw a definition of courteous love that described this as a characteristic. The courteous love is, in my opinion, a very different and rather a love that is best known here from the Middle Ages and then seemed to experience its heyday.

The courteous love of a man is, in my opinion, the love of a woman, I have never met man to man, or it must be the Greek eros rid of the more earthly experiences. It was the love of a knight for a often married damsel. The object of love is preferably somewhat or totally unreachable for one or more reasons. It, necessarily sometimes, renounces the sexual component of love, or at least coitus brings with it an increased, channeled and sublimated libido that eventually penetrates and or assimilates all levels at which this love takes place. Of course, this love knows many conventions, but what is most striking is its unselfishness, although I suspect there are limits to that. This love especially comes to us, ordinary mortals, in an inexhaustible amount of poetry, over many centuries. Known poets are of course William Shakespeare and Sir Philip Sydney, but honor there are too many to mention. Of course, the stories about Tristan and Isolde, Romeo and Juliet and Lancelot and Guinevere are well known. Dichten is of course the artistic expression of passion through love. See also, for example, the Song of Solomon and the Psalms of King David.

Love to God and His love usually seems to be on a very different level. It is a love that is spread worldwide, like all other forms, although many will think differently, because his or her God is the only one and cannot be shared with a people or religion with another name. On the other hand, the thought that God doesn't exist all over these days. Love to God is on the one hand the profane, that of the church or flock, and on the other hand the sacral of priests and the many other qualities of initiates. Known example of all sacrificing love to God is of course the Bible story of John the Baptist and his devotion, which is also love, to Jesus. This love is also accompanied by great sacrifices, although the sacrifice here is what it is all about and not the result of love as with, for example, courteous love. The sacrifice Jesus made is an example to which ultimate love can lead. I would like to leave it at that, but I hope to come back to this.

Desire then, in my case is once again either the root of greed or its sprouting and sad often leads to frustrations and eventually anger. I mean this not in the light of the dualist moral split of Western thinking, but as an experience fact. I know both materialistic desires and spiritual/spiritual desires. It's secrets that lure.

It is the experience that something is missing. A thought, an object, an idea or object suddenly becomes extremely important and cannot and cannot be missed. I have to have it and I will have it right away. The wish must be fulfilled whether it is within reach or not, whatever. It's like there's a consciousness narrowing, like I'm going blind to everything else that is. Nothing is more important than the object, the person, or the idea of what the desire pertains to. Even the feeling plays a role. At first I was happy and satisfied, with the new insight that alras disappeared.

There are different desires. For example, there are sexual, material, spiritual and religious desires. Are they all from the same source, the same (un) displeasure or is there a difference between spiritual and material needs for example? I imagine spiritual desires come from the soul and sexual desires are more physically bound. That intense desire for that woman or man you once encountered is more a desire of the heart. Then where do material desires come from? That new jacket, which, perhaps, used shoes that look so shockingly cool or could be very nice, where did that apparent lack come from? A theory I heard today is that it's the search back to the mother's womb, for a sense of security.

According to the Austrian psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, born before 1900, all desires can be traced to a life drive or a death drive. Carl Gustaf Jung, his disciple for a short time, thought there were four universal desires, linked to the different archetypes that form the structure of the collective unconscious result in different types with the same desire, but each with its own content.

There are the seekers for paradise, for the ultimate good and perfect life. For example, the sage thinks that this state can be achieved by reflecting on knowledge and finding a higher self through logos, or, as Alan Watts argues, going the way of the Tao, finding and becoming yourself. The rebel is a different kind of world improver, he or she believes in a form of struggle, revolution, overthrowing sacred houses. He or she kicks herself forward after his or her desire as it were. This is contrary to what is called the common man. His motto is known: just do it, then you act crazy enough. The group is the highest good, that is where he or she wants to belong. The artist seeks his salvation in creating an idea of control.

Is that it? Is not desire more than a form of control over something that is not (yet) there? Is the fulfillment of the wish and the temporary feeling of happiness that comes with it (only) having the idea of control? Only, I guess, what remains after control is a fact? There will be a new desire! Control is then a desire! The satisfaction of the somewhat older generations in particular, as it seems, is also temporary. Apparently there's another engine that keeps us yearning for new, different horizons.